I’d like to say that since my last post, things have gotten better, classes have become more manageable, the fear has lessened — that I have everything under control. However, that is not the case. A part of me wants to say they have gotten worse.
See here’s the thing, I had a breakdown spiritual awakening recently.
I find that my Higher Power works with the WORST (best) timing.
So I work for this youth leadership development program. Its the best job I’ve ever had. It embodies two of my three deepest passions in life — leadership & youth. And I mean, you guys, we really do some phenomenal stuff with our kids! Like really! Disclaimer: I am not being paid to write this ;) We do these awesome activities that are interactive and relevant, and yes its fun – absolutely. But its so much more than that – Its authentic, and real, and deep, and its raw. Most of the concepts we teach, I didn’t even know of, much less learn until adulthood. In fact, I’m still learning most of them.
So a few weeks ago we were doing this activity that had to do with emotional security (What is this emotional security stuff you speak of?! For youth?!… My thoughts exactly). Essentially this activity is one of those ‘write down your fears on a piece of paper and then you burn it to represent you’re letting go’ deals. (We burn this in a fake fire, by the way). We’re in a staff meeting that Monday morning going over/ doing this lesson and I nearly lose it. One of those – don’t make eye contact, put your head down, don’t speak, *please don’t call on me, please don’t call on me* type situations. Otherwise, I would have lost it right then and there.
Now hold on for a second, this is one of my favorite lessons out of our whole curriculum, in fact, next month I’m presenting at a conference over this exact lesson. Yeah, so not only am I thinking:
“What the hell am I doing here!? I have to go and make this experience happen with my kids in a few hours” but I am also thinking “AND I have to present this shit at a conference!!!! Again, what the hell am I doing here?!”
The meeting ends, I (attempt to) go about my business for a little while, then lunch rolls around. Luckily no one else was ready for lunch, so I’m sitting there alone; ready to break. I can’t speak, or else I really would lose it – in the middle of the office. So I do the next best thing: I reach out to a coworker/ good friend via email. I let her know the real deal. I let her know that she needs to fix me, or there’s going to be this big, sopping, snotty mess here in the middle of the office. Ha, no I didn’t tell her to fix me, and even if I did ask that of her, she knows better. I’m grateful for that, and her. I was desperate for her to respond, like 5 seconds ago – As soon as I sent the email, I text her and messaged her via Linc. She got the message (both literally and figuratively). She responded the kind of way that makes you turn into that snotty mess there in the middle of the office. But also the kind of response that speaks truth to the core of your being – the TRUTH-TELLER, HOPE-SPREADER,
& WAY-MAKER kind.
Anyway, that was the beginning of my breakdown spiritual awakening. It didn’t all get better overnight and it still isn’t better. But its getting better. My circumstances haven’t changed. My professors are still assholes – I mean, my courseload isn’t any lighter. I still feel overwhelmed. But I am making changes. I am changing. I am being made new. I am being restored. I am being an intentional choice-maker. I am doing the footwork and trying to leave the results up to my Higher Power. And in my powerlessness, I am taking back my power. My circumstances do not dictate my decisions, my time, nor my life.
Throughout my entire life, I have been extremely active in sports. My latest endeavor has been CrossFit and weightlifting. However, I put this aside over the past year – because I’m too busy. I pick it back up tomorrow morning, though. Because…
“When I pick up that weight, the kind on my shoulders are lifted as well
because I’m here to take back my power.”
Awakening, J